Proverbs. Friends, Enemies and Neighbors.

Ken Notes: People to look for and people to avoid. The qualities of a good neighbor.

These proverbs tell us of the kinds of persons we should associate with, and the qualities of a good neighbor as well as how to treat our enemies. They provide us with practical instruction for everyday living.

PEOPLE TO SEEK OUT.

A good spouse.
" He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD." (Prov.‘:22)
"House and wealth are inherited  from parents, but a prudent wife is from the  LORD." (Prov.’:14)

The wise.
"Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools suffers harm." (Prov. 13:20)

The pure in heart.
"Those who love a pure heart and are gracious in speech will have the king as a friend." (Prov. 22:11)

PEOPLE TO AVOID.

The prostitute.
"For the lips of a loose woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword." (Prov. 5:3–4)

The gossip.
"A gossip reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a babbler." (Prov. 20:19)

The hothead.
"Make no friends with those given to anger, and do not associate with hotheads, or you may learn their ways and entangle yourself in a snare." (Prov. 22:24–25)

The glutton.
"Be not among gluttonous eaters of meat; for the drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty, and drowsiness will clothe them with rags." (Prov.23:20–21)

ABOUT ENEMIES.

"When the ways of people please the LORD, he causes even their enemies to be at peace with them." (Prov. 16:7)

"Do not rejoice when your enemies fall, and do not let your heart be glad when they stumble, or else the LORD will see it and be displeased, and turn away his anger from them." (Prov. 24:17–18)

"An enemy dissembles in speaking while harboring deceit within; when an enemy speaks graciously, do not believe it, for there are seven abominations concealed within;  though hatred is covered with guile, the enemy’s wickedness will be exposed in the assembly." (Prov. 26:24–26)

"Well meant are the wounds a friend inflicts, but profuse are the kisses of an enemy." (Prov. 27:6)

Love your enemies.
" If your enemies are hungry, give them bread to eat; and if they are thirsty, give them water to drink; for you will heap coals of fire on their heads, and the LORD will reward you. (Prov. 25:21–22)

THE GOOD NEIGHBOR.

Restores what is necessary promptly.
"Do not say to your neighbor, “Go, and come again, tomorrow I will give it ”—when you have it with you." (Prov. 3:28)

Is peaceful.
"Do not plan harm against your neighbor who lives trustingly beside you. Do not quarrel with anyone without cause, when no harm has been done to you." (Prov. 3:29–30)

Is cautious.
"It is senseless to give a pledge, to become surety for a neighbor." (Prov. 17:18)

Avoids quarrels.
" Like somebody who takes a passing dog by the ears is one who meddles in the quarrel of another." (Prov. 26:17)

Is considerate.
"Whoever blesses a neighbor with a loud voice, rising early in the morning, will be counted as cursing." (Prov. 27:14)

" Like vinegar on a wound is one who sings songs to a heavy heart. Like a moth in clothing or a worm in wood, sorrow gnaws at the human heart. " (Prov. 25:20)

Makes no practical jokes.
"Like a maniac who shoots deadly firebrands and arrows,  so is one who deceives a neighbor and says, 'I am only joking!'" (Prov. 26:18)

Is kind.
"Those who despise their neighbors are sinners, but happy are those who are kind to the poor." (Prov. 14:21)

Is loyal, non-demanding and available.
"Do not forsake your friend or the friend of your parent; do not go to the house of your kindred in the day of your calamity. Better is a neighbor who is nearby than kindred who are far away." (Prov. 27:10)

Keeps a respectful distance.
"Let your foot be seldom in your neighbor’s house, otherwise the neighbor will become weary of you and hate you." (Prov. 25:17)

Avoids litigation.
"Do not hastily bring into court; for what will you do in the end, when your neighbor puts you to shame?" (Prov. 25:8)

Is honest
"Do not be a witness against your neighbor without cause, and do not deceive with your lips." (Prov. 24:28)
"Whoever flatters a neighbor is spreading a net for the neighbor’s feet." (Prov. 29:5)

MARKS OF A GOOD FRIEND.

Constant.
" Some friends play at friendship but a true friend sticks closer than one’s nearest kin." (Prov.‘:24)

Frank.
"Well meant are the wounds a friend inflicts, but profuse are the kisses of an enemy." (Prov. 27:6)

Generous.
"Many seek the favor of the generous, and everyone is a friend to a giver of gifts. If the poor are hated even by their kin, how much more are they shunned by their friends! When they call after them, they are not there. " (Prov.’:6–7)

Enhances the other's strengths
" Iron sharpens iron, and one person sharpens the wits of another." (Prov. 27:17)

Able to forgive.
"One who forgives an affront fosters friendship, but one who dwells on disputes will alienate a friend." (Prov.17:9)